How to spot trust issues

What are trust issues? The feelings that mask your true feelings because someone has abused your trust. Here are some ways to tell if yor partner has trust issues:

1. Holding Back

     This is when someone does not want to be themselves in front of you. This can cause undue stress on any relationship because it is a subtle problem that can get worse over time if not corrected.

2. Living in Fear

     This is when something always seems wrong with this person even when nothing is wrong. If your partner is afraid to do things with you that is a sign that they may not trust you enough to get completely close to you.

3. Not being honest

    If your constantly catching this person in a lie, that could be a sign of not only trust issues but also commitment issues. (cheating)

4. Phone snooping

   Privacy invasions are the number one killer of realationships. Even if nothing is found on the phone it is almost as if you have opened a door to the end of your relationship. Even if your tempted to look at your partners phone do not do it. Trust karma to settle your unhealthy thoughts.

5. Fear of commitment

   Not letting a person know that the feeling is mutual can create trust issues from the beginning. Be honest about how you feel and try to only go as far as your partner is willing to go.

And finally..

6.Supressing emotions

    If a person is trying to hide their emotions in front of you this can mean that they are not comfortable around you and they may feel as though they are not important in the relationship.  This could also mean they do do not trust you to bot make them feel worse about how they feel.

If you notice all or some of these things occuring in your relationship, make up your mind about how important that person is to you and communicate with them. Conversation is a very powerful tool because it can metaphorically start and end wars.

Good Luck!💛

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Definition of Love

I find myself struggling with relationships a lot. Maybe because I'm young and haven't experienced life to the fullest extent, but I do have a gist of what love is. Consider this: You just met someone. They're daunting, experienced, intellectually inclined, basically everything that you would want in a person. But, the most important thing is that you felt this connection. Trust and believe, It was a sentiment that you never imagined. With that being said, What is love?

Most people see love as sex, or just plain ole sacrifice. I, for one, see it as a lifelong commitment. Not just a couple of months or years but a life long journey that ends with the lost of a breath. In this day and age society lacks empathy, sympathy and commitment. We all want the new best thing. Whether its a new car, a female with a fat ass, or just material possessions. As Humans, we know thats its gonna be something or someone better than what we have. So why do we thirst after things we can't have? I don't know the answer to my own question but I do have a controlled experiment. Place 3 beautiful women in front of a man. One women with a rocking body, no too much on the bright side though. Another woman with a gorgeous smile, decent body, but she cant communicate that well. Lastly, the last women has great intuition, can bring things to fruition, and she's a great communicater.

Which would you choose?  Communication is the key to life and happiness if you exact me. I find a woman that can keep a conversation solely and ultimately attractive but thats only because I love to talk. Love is all about how you can reach your spouse on a deeper level. Its more than just sex, having fun, and buying things. Can you really get that person to fall in love with your mind. This is what i think love means. Deeper Connections equals different Affections.

Much Love,

The Virgo King

What makes a good writer?

  I personally think that it is important to have your own style of writing, but also be able to adapt to expectations of teachers or even editors. Your always required to meet standards and deadlines further down the line. Does anyone have a favorite author and why are they your favorite? It is okay if you say yourself because sometimes I would say myself as long as I do not get writer's block because then we are all in trouble. Seriously, do not waste talent.

  Before you create your own style of writing you have to pay attention to the process in which you write. I have a lot of favorite authors that seem genuine in how they write for example I like to read books in which the authors tells a complete and dramatic story that could be perceived as either fiction or non fiction and still make sense. Back in high school we had to carry around thick orange books full of nothing but vocabulary prompts and new words for us to learn.

 Do you think this is necessary in order to write a well thought out piece?

Discovering a passion

When I was a little girl I used to look at the other little kids that could sing and dance and wonder what my way of expression was. When I got bored, I would write and read until I found something better to do or until I fell asleep. As I got older I realized that I did not have to try hard to write good essays. It just came to me. I also loved learning new languages which allowed me to write better in German than I speak it. I believe that as time has gone on the importance of reading has increased but not the passion for it. Reading was always my second favorite subject even though at times it seemed so tedious and daunting but the more I read the more I could say in my essays. My teachers in high school used to try to challenge us as much as possible because I went to a college prep school. I also took into consideration that math was my weakest subject so I put alot of time into getting better at math but I started to understand that everybody processes things differently.

  My love for writing is still very alive and well. It is never something I am bothered by doing because I am able to really explain myself. Today young people can sometimes relate too much to social media which I feel is only adding fuel to many of the social issues that exist especially here in America. The websites that are popular today only provide exposure and little else except for computer skills that can lay dormat for years until ready to be used. 

  I know some people find math to be universal and very neccesary and I agree but I do not think reading and writing are any less important.